Last updated on October 1, 2017
Lately, Iâ€™ve been feeling older than I should. Iâ€™m certain itâ€™s due to the creaks and pops my joints make or the involuntary groans that escape my mouth upon any movement. No, seriously. Weâ€™ve been doing this â€œboot campâ€ at the local YMCA for the past couple of weeks. Tuesday was heavy on the biceps (which I didnâ€™t even know I had in my little bird arms), so here I am 2 days later barely able to lift much of anything. Of course, it doesnâ€™t help my feelings of decrepitude that the Girl, whoâ€™s participating in the boot camp with us, can run 5 laps around the overhead track without breaking a sweat while Iâ€™m panting at the top of the stairs (i.e., the ones you take just to get to the track). I keep telling myself I could do that at 15 â€¦ but thatâ€™s been so long ago, Iâ€™m not really sure anymore.
Okay, okay, so Iâ€™m not really that old. But I heard something on the radio a few weeks ago that has stuck with me â€¦ in a bad way. It was the day I got uber-introspective and the DJ was talking about how experts have determined we really do get â€œtoo oldâ€ to do certain things. Like when you’re too old to suck your thumb. Or sleep in the same bed with your parents. The one that got me was these expertsÂ saying youâ€™re too old to â€œstart overâ€ at age 40. The DJ elaborated that this meant switching careers and other major life changes like that.
On the one hand, I just kept picturing Danny Glover in the Lethal Weapon series. So, he gets partnered up with the younger crazier cop, played by a mullet-sporting Mel Gibson, and refrains â€œIâ€™m too old for this sh*tâ€ at various times throughout the movie. At one point in LW2, heâ€™s in the bathroom for his daily constitution and discovers that the commode has been rigged with a pressure-sensitive bomb. Here’s how I remembered he scene: there he is, pants around his ankles, newspaper in one hand, the other wiping beads of sweat from his brow and hoping beyond hope that his a$$ doesnâ€™t blow up. And he says â€œIâ€™m too old for this sh*t.â€ Okay, I donâ€™t know if he actually says it in that scene, but, given the ramifications of his current position, the visual in my head gave me a giggle. And because this scene was in the first sequel, I totally almost typed number 2, but thought better of it. I guess sometimes I still have the mind of a 12-year-old. But I digress.
On the other hand, Iâ€™m flat-out offended that anyone would say Iâ€™m too old to do anything. I mean, here I am at 40-something thinking of going back to school. Yes, I made the career change (from lawyer to college teacher) in my 30s and going back to school would just be furthering that, but still. What about never being too old to be happy? Or sleeping when weâ€™re dead? Or some other such clichÃ© I canâ€™t think of at the moment (not because Iâ€™m old and my brain cells donâ€™t work as well as they used to, but rather because Iâ€™ve always had a terrible memory).Â C.S. Lewis said “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” So there.
Yes, Iâ€™ve decided that I havenâ€™t really decided whether Iâ€™m going back to school. Read that again if you like. Iâ€™d made a decision to apply for Ph.D. programs, registered for the GRE, and then *decided* again (re-decided? Sheesh, changed my mind!) that I may not go right way (or ever). Instead, Iâ€™m supposed to be focusing on my writing. But the GRE is tomorrow. Iâ€™d put it off from December to give myself more time to prepare but have instead used all the extra time to psych myself out. Youâ€™d think that not even knowing if Iâ€™m going to apply to any programs would take some of the pressure off, right? Wrong. I never used to be afraid of tests; I mean, Iâ€™ve taken (and passed) 3 state bar exams; after that, everything should be cake. Of course, itâ€™s been YEARS and Iâ€™m 40-something and my brain is TIRED and Iâ€™m too old for this sh*t.
My anxiety is the pressure-rigged commode. Hereâ€™s hoping is doesnâ€™t blow up in my â€“ face.