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On Wednesday evening, February 12, 2014, our last goat left our property. That was only about a week and a half after I posted our herd of goats and cows for sale, though I’d been thinking about it for awhile. We still have a few chickens, but all our livestock are gone. So for the first time in almost 5 years, our pastures are empty, except for Max, the livestock guardian dog who has nothing left to guard. It’s bittersweet.

The two older kids have never been as interested in goat farming as me, though one did show more enthusiasm than the other throughout the adventure. So what was meant to be a family activity was more of me forcing my will upon them. Then there was the roller coaster of emotions that came along with the farming: the joy of goat babies all too often tempered by the sting of sickness and death. Any success becomes overshadowed by defeat. And when children start to expect, or become numb to, death, something needs to change.

So I’m no longer a goat farmer. Morgan expressed my own feelings perfectly when she said, commenting on her out of state move nearly 2 years ago and now this change: “It’s like our glory days are over.”

Maybe. Maybe not. I have to believe that this is just the next step in the journey we call life. And who knows what comes next …

As of February 2014, we are selling our livestock herd. All dairy goats and cows are for sale. If interested, email: info AT applebottomsfarm DOT com

Nigerian Dwarf Dairy Goats

We currently have 5 does and 2 bucks for sale. All but one are show quality dairy goats. Names and prices are listed below. Click here for photos, pedigrees and more information. Updated 2/9/2014

Milky (dry/pet quality) $100 - SOLD
Crow (bred/show quality) $250 - SOLD
Leather (milking/show quality) $250 - SOLD
Melinda (bred/show quality) $250
Emma Frost (milking/show quality) $250 - SOLD
Orion (breeding buck/show quality) $250
Quicksilver (breeding buck/show quality) $200 - SOLD

Alpine Dairy Goats

We currently have 1 doe for sale. She is show quality. Name and price listed below. Click here for photo, pedigree and more information.

Pepper (never freshened/show quality) $250 - SOLD

Dexter Cattle

We currently have 2 Dexter cows for sale. Name and prices are listed below. Click here for photos, pedigrees and more information.

Ivy (breeding stock) $400 - SOLD
Storm (show quality/breeding) $850 - SOLD

There’s a reason I don’t work a traditional 8-5 type job anymore. Well, actually, there are several; here are a couple, in no particular order:

I like naps. (Okay, if I’m being really honest, this probably would be number one).

We have three kids, and Bryan’s job is really demanding. So my schedule being flexible allows me to be available for day-to-day kid things. It’s a blessing.

I can’t stand traffic. I know no one likes traffic, but I mean I really can’t handle it. Last Friday, I had to stay on campus for a required composition faculty meeting until about 4:30 p.m., which put me smack in the middle of rush hour traffic heading home. As I rode my brakes and cringed as the sounds of squealing rubber all around me, I could feel my blood begin to boil, which I’m now convinced is a manifestation of feeling my blood pressure on the rise. But when I was stuck in that tense sea of red, one thing I noticed was that I wasn’t in a bad mood. When I called Bryan to tell him I was on my way, I said something like, “Well, at least I had a good day, was doing something I enjoyed instead of being stuck in all this after a crappy day.”

Me, in the 4th grade

And that’s when it hit me. I finally know what I want to be when I grow up. At almost 40. But, hey, better late than never, right?

I’ve said before that I liked law school but hated practice. That’s not exactly true. I did like law school because I’ve always like school. I’m a nerd. My first year out, I worked for a judge in a one-year clerkship, which was mostly research and a lot of learning … so I loved it too. Then I went to work for a big firm, working long hours and stressing out a lot. I liked it at first, too. But it got old really quickly. I think my enjoyment of practice exponentially declined in direct correlation to the increasing amount of time I had to spend on the telephone.

Back in 2009, I started teaching. I credit long-time friend Tina Hall for this development. What started out as a lament on how I never really wanted to go to law school and really just wanted to be a teacher ended in a “well, duh,” moment when she suggested I talk to the local university about teaching as an adjunct. Since then, I’ve taught (either online or on-campus, or both) in the writing department at the local university, paralegal classes at the local technical school, and law classes at the local law school. While I’ve pretty much enjoyed all of the classes I’ve taught, my favorite has become evident over the last couple of semesters: freshman composition. It seems to satisfy my love of writing and love of teaching, along with a healthy dose of organization to appease my OCD. And I think I’m pretty good at it, too.

Ideally, I think I’d like to do this for the rest of my life. I’d even like to do it in a full-time capacity (I could always set my hours to avoid rush hour traffic, right?). Of course, I’m not sure a J.D. and M.B.A. are sufficient degrees for a full-time composition faculty position, so maybe I just need to go back to school again.

Hmm, teaching writing and going to school at the same time. Man, wouldn’t that be the life?!

That was the semi-random question asked on the way home from guitar/voice lessons the other night. Only semi-random because, being the nerdy family we are, we’re regularly debating things such as “what superpower would you want,” “who would win in a fight” (hint: always Superman), and other *super* issues.

The 11yo (Boy Genius) instigated this one, quickly assigning The Flash to the 6yo (Wonder Boy), because he has so much energy and never. ever. slows. down.

The 13yo (Girl) is Kitty Pryde/Shadowcat, because she’s sort of sneaky (which seems negative but we don’t mean it’s always a bad thing); it’s just, sometimes she’s there, and sometimes she’s not.  And even when you think she’s no where near you, somehow she manages to know the details of a private conversation, like what someone’s getting for Christmas.

We all decided that the 11yo (Boy Genius) is Cyborg, though he seemed disappointed that that didn’t mean he’d talk like Arnold Schwarzenegger in Terminator. Cyborg definitely fits him though because he has excellent information recall (like scary good sometimes) and regularly says things like, “I don’t need a calculator; I have one in my head.”

Everyone seemed pretty satisfied that Daddy is Mr. Fantastic without much explanation (perhaps because he wasn’t in the car to question it). But I’d guess that it’s because he holds us all together. And, given the stretches we all do in Taekwondo class, he’s definitely the most flexible.

Cyborg said I was Charles Xavier/Professor X, mainly because he said sometimes it seems like I can read his mind. (I didn’t tell him that’s just mom experience, yo.) He also said that no one really knows the extent of Xavier’s power; like if he wanted to he could get in someone’s head and destroy them from the inside out. Um … thanks?

So which superhero are you? It’s a fun little thing to consider. Here’s the real question though: is it the one you’d want to be?

Today, my first thought of the morning — well other than the standard “man, I’m tired” — was of Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally. There is a scene where she’s sobbing to Billy Crystal’s character, “And I’m gonna be 40!” He asks her when and she replies, “Someday,” to which he responds, “in like 8 years,” the ridiculousness of it all evident in his voice.

Well, I don’t have 8 years and I’m not sobbing either. I’m not necessarily dreading 40 any more than just the average “getting older sucks” funk that I’ve fallen into lately. And I’m certainly not conceding that 40 is old. It just goes back to the whole “no more firsts” thing I’ve already whined about. But 40 is the next milestone.

See, yesterday was my 39th birthday. Since I’m only teaching on-campus 3 days a week this semester, I technically didn’t have anywhere to be. So I spent the morning in glorious solitude on the tractor, satisfying my OCD by cutting the pastures in boxed sectioms and singing along with my music at the top of my lungs with no one to judge my lack of vocal talent but the critters and trees. Living in the country has its perks, y’all.

It was spectacular … other than the part where I backed into (and destroyed) the pond fence. Perhaps it was the brisk morning air or the bright warming sun, but even that didn’t get me down. I just kept on singing.

Then, I managed an afternoon nap before the kids got out of school and a dinner that I neither had to cook nor clean up after. All in all, it was a good birthday. What more could I ask for? Maybe I’m still high on sunshine, but I’m choosing to not answer that today.

Foreword: In recent years, I’ve been trying to “watch my language.” I really try to limit my use of curse words. You know, because the whole “don’t let evil come out of your mouth” thing; and because I know my kids are listening and it’s hard to discourage them from using bad words when momma’s got a potty mouth. But this week, and today especially, that’s all gone to hell in a handbasket. Also, 9 out of 10 of the posts like the one that follows never make it from my notebook to the site because I write them in a fever and then realize how full of whine they are when I cool down. I decide not to share that whine with the world, or the handful of people who actually read this blog. Again, this week, and today especially, I guess I’m just gonna be a hot head. See previous statement regarding the handbasket. Consider yourself warned.

My friend MorganMorganMorgan and I have been commiserating a lot lately about our pitiful lives.

Disclaimer #1: Okay, so our lives aren’t pitiful. We both have healthy families with loving husbands and generally well-behaved children. We have roofs over our heads and food on our table and are generally healthy ourselves (with controllable physical issues and only slightly questionable – on good days – mental issues). So, yeah, we should be ashamed of ourselves for even complaining. Yada, yada, yada.

Disclaimer #2: “Lately” isn’t quite accurate either. We commiserate all the time. The foundation of our friendship is that we can be happy or sad to our heart’s dis/content without the need for a disclaimer like #1.

On with it, then. For this latest downward spiral of despair, I take full responsibility. Morgan’s been saying for awhile that she feels like she’s failing at everything … that her one responsibility in life is raising her kids and she sucks at it. Now that’s simply not true, but I get what she’s saying. Earlier this week, I texted her that I was severely depressed because the best years of my life were behind me. “I’ve no firsts left,” I said. I then went on to whine about how I wish my life was a book or a movie and some other such ridiculous nonsense too embarrassing to admit.  Instead, I’m almost 40 and can’t even maintain the very basics of life.

This morning neither of the big kids could find clean laundry … well, one of them just wasn’t happy with what there was but the other swore there was no clean underwear. My knee-jerk reaction in my head is “Well, crap, there’s something else I’ve f-ed up this week.” But then, the Girl walks in, while I’m drinking my coffee and trying to wake up properly before facing the world, and says, in the same judgmental tone she usually saves for her “Mother!” admonishments after I’ve cursed aloud, “Can you please wash some clothes today because I seriously had to dig in the hamper for running shorts.” (Well, they’re running shorts; it’s not like they have to start out clean.) And she just stands there looking at me, waiting for a response. (Here’s where the loving husband part comes in: he says to her very calmly, “Walk away now and pretend you didn’t say that.”)

Urging me to read The Bloggess‘ post Is it just me?, Morgan texted, “I don’t know if it’s normal, or if you, me and her are the only f-ups … but yeah, whatever.” The Bloggess’ post could have been written by me, about me, except that would mean actually accomplishing something other than getting out of bed. (And at least she gets comments on her blog, so I win at failing). Now, I don’t think we’re the only ones; and to anyone who says we are, I’m call bullshit right now. But that doesn’t make me feel any better.

The Bloggess says her biggest accomplishment some days is going to the bank. Mine is not crawling back into bed after the kids get on the bus, because, 5 out of 5 days a week, that’s exactly what I want to do. And I’ve no idea why. I know I didn’t use to be this way. But I can’t figure out what happened. Now fortunately, or unfortunately depending on how you look at it, I can’t crawl back into bed most days; but I don’t feel any better about myself for that either.

Some days, some weeks even, are better than others. I’m able to maintain that perspective and blessed feeling related to disclaimer #1. Other days, I’m in what Morgan and I call a funk … which is more like a black hole … in which any light that remains is zapped from existence by the very fact that I should be happy but am not. So what’s wrong with me and how do I fix it? Or do I just accept that this is it?

See, if my life were a movie, this would all be resolved in 2 hours or less. And everyone would have clean underwear.

Logo revealed at Comic-Con (from www.empireonline.com)

It’s been a couple of weeks now since the news hit that Ben Affleck accepted the role of the caped crusader in the Man of Steel sequel, the title of which writer David S. Goyer has said would be a toss-up between either Superman vs. Batman or Batman vs. Superman. (And it occurs to me now that I never posted my reaction to MOS. Well, I loved it. I could pick it apart and harp on this or that, but really I’d rather just enjoy it. To me, MOS brought Superman back into the limelight of mainstream, made him someone little boys want to be, and did justice to his story).

Anyway, as the story of Affleck’s casting spread like wildfire, reactions seemed consistently heated and so “Batfleck” was born (oh, Internet, aren’t you so clever?). Inexplicably, however, neither the announcement that James Spader would be Ultron in The Avengers sequel nor the rumor that the Shatner – i.e., the original James T. Kirk – wanted a role in the MOS Sequel, generated nearly as much venom. Damn it, Jim.

Honestly, my immediate reaction to Batfleck was somewhat similar to the masses (a “No, this hurts,” text to MorganMorganMorgan). I mean it wasn’t that long ago that I said I didn’t want Affleck as a super friend. But then I took a breath. I’m still not completely happy with the idea of Benny boy as the dark knight but not for the reasons it seems the majority of folks are in an uproar about. Mine is not a cry of foul, more of a whimper of worry.

Daredevil sucked. Yes, that’s true. But I don’t blame Affleck for that. Poor writing and directing prevented a good comic book origin story from translating well to the big screen. It’s not the first time dignity’s been lost in the translation, and it won’t be the last time a generally good actor looks bad because of poor packaging.

Yes, Affleck is a good actor. Yes, I’ve changed my tune on this; he’s a good actor, one who has gotten better with age. Did you see Argo? How about The Town (which I think is my fave of all his performances to date)? He goes all in, developing a look, a sound, a feel for a character; characters that aren’t all the same, and he’s believable in the different roles. Anyone who says Affleck can’t go dark should watch the scene in The Town when Rebecca Hall’s character tells him some guys harassed her so she takes the long way home now. He asks, with just a hint of edge to his voice, “What’d they look like?” The next thing we see is him telling Jeremy Renner’s character, “I need your help. I can’t tell you what it is, you can never ask me about it later, and we’re gonna hurt some people.” Yeah, he can go dark enough.

So do I think Affleck can pull it off? Yes. I think he’ll be just fine, maybe even great, as Batman. My problem, i.e., my worry, is about what this means for a Man of Steel sequel. It wasn’t long ago when Affleck said he wasn’t interested in taking on projects unless he could both direct and star in them. And it was about this very topic really, the idea of a Justice League ensemble. So here he’s already backtracking a bit because Snyder’s at the helm again. So what about the starring part? Coupling Affleck’s prior comments with Goyer’s title bombshell, I’m worried we’re awaiting more of a Batman reboot than a Superman movie. For someone who’s waited almost my whole life for a good Superman movie, I’m not ready to hand over my dreams of an awesome sequel of hope and home to yet another telling of billionaire-turned-bat. (And, seriously, I’ve nothing against Batman. He’s just not Superman).

But I’m tempering my response to Batfleck because I do still have hope.

I’ve complained early before and been happily proven wrong. I hated the idea of Marvel getting anyone other than Ed Norton to play Bruce Banner in The Avengers, only to eat crow and proclaim Mark Ruffalo the best Hulk ever.  I didn’t like the decision to get some unknown (to me) British actor to play the symbol of truth, justice and the American way, only to declare Henry Cavill as MY Superman. (Sorry, Tom Welling, though you’ll always be my Clark Kent).

So, I have hope that Affleck will rock the bat mask and black cape, that Cavill will deliver the goods again, and that Superman vs. Batman (or whatever the heck they decide to call it) will be epic.

I may be the fun parent but I’m a terrible wife. Earlier this summer, I posted (and did a little jig) about my kids saying I was the fun parent. While shocked to learn they view me as such, I’ve come to accept the title.

On Monday when hubs came home from work, the Girl giddily asked, “Who’s the happiest girl in the world?!”

“Who?” he asked, playing along.

“Meeeee!” She beamed and then proceeded to tell him how I’d gotten tickets to take her and her friends to the premiere of This Is Us (that’s the One Direction concert movie for those of you without tween-age daughters).

“What?!” he asked incredulously, looking at me.

Shrugging, I said, “I’m the fun parent,” as if that answered everything clearly. I’d like to end the story there … you know, on a high note … but …

Yesterday, hubs turned the big 4-0. A few months ago, I asked him what he wanted for his upcoming big day. I remember saying something like, “It’s a big birthday, you should get something big.”  (Why, oh why, would I say that? Oh, yeah, ’cause I turn 40 next year). He said he wanted a new gun. Okay, he was actually very specific: an AR-15 … x y z … yada yada yada … heck if I remember now what it was. I’ll tell you what I do remember: that particular type of gun costs about $1200. So, um, yeah, I didn’t get him that.

Instead, I got him a not-cheap-in-its-own-right-but-not-$1200 new Keurig coffee maker. It arrived on a Saturday, when he was home, so there was no hiding it and saving it for a big surprise on his big day. So he’s been using his birthday gift daily for a few weeks now.

Anyway, he walked in from work yesterday with the remains of what appeared to be a rather large birthday cake. As the kids dug into the left over cake, even though it was already past their bedtime and certainly past a reasonable hour for sugar on a school night, I said, “Oh wow! They threw you a party? Did you expect that?” He said he had no idea about it until right before and that when he was handing out thanks one of his co-workers said, “Ah, this was nothing. Bet your wife has something big planned. I mean, it’s your 40th.”

Uh-oh.

I got nothing.

Who’s got two thumbs and is a terrible wife? Yeah, this girl.

As we were getting ready for bed, I came clean: “Uh, just so you know, I don’t have anything planned.” He laughed it off and said it was okay, that he didn’t need anything else. I think he really meant it but still …

Even right now, I’ve no clue what I’d even do for him. We’ve been together almost 20 years, you’d think I’d have some idea what he’d want, and yet I’m coming up empty.  I mean, he’s not very social, doesn’t really like parties. He’d rather watch a movie at home in his underwear than go out any day of the week. So what could I really do?

Hmm, or maybe I’m just imposing all this on him because I really don’t want to have to plan anything else. See: a. terrible. wife.

You know the saying, “Two wrongs don’t make a right”? Well, apparently a bunch of wrongs can make something right. Because so many people use “literally” improperly, i.e., when they mean figuratively, the powers that be have added this to the definition of “literally”:

“used for emphasis while not being literally true” (informal usage, Oxford Dictionaries).

“used to acknowledge that something is not literally true but is used for emphasis or to express strong feeling” (Google).

I’m literally banging my head against the wall.

No, really, see:

Now, I appreciate the evolution of language. If a language does not grow and adapt, then it ultimately dies. I get that. In fact, I’m fascinated by it. But does growing and adapting mean just accepting error?

I mean, what’s next?

“could care less”?

“whether or not”?

“irregardless”?

“supposably”?

This makes my head hurt. I’m sure it has nothing to do with the wall-banging. I’m just saying if “supposably” makes it in the dictionary, my head will explode.

No, not literally. Because then I’d be dead. Of course, then the whole “grammar kills” argument would carry more validity.

Cyanide and Happiness: http://www.explosm.net/comics/2712/

http://jmichaelrios.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/lets-eat-grandma.jpg

See also:

Have we literally broken the English language?

44 Everyday Phrases You Might Not Know You’ve Been Saying Incorrectly

New posting 8/1/2013

While we regularly take inquiries regarding all the animals on our site, here are several that we’re currently offering for sale. Email: info AT applebottomsfarm DOT com. Prices are based on pick-up at our farm.

Nigerian Dwarf Goats

Pecan Hollow SF Milky Way (“Milky”)

6-year-old purebred Nigerian Dwarf doe. Previously shown in several dairy goat shows. Dual registered with ADGA and NDGA. Four prior kiddings. Currently dry. Ready to breed. More photos and pedigree available here.

Price $150.00

Apple Bottoms “Lady’s Buckling” (currently unnamed)

6-week-old purebred Nigerian Dwarf buckling.  Currently unnamed and no registration processing, but is show quality and able to be registered. Will be disbudded, weaned and ready for placement in 2 weeks.

Price $200.00

Laying Hens

Golden Sex-links

We have several commercial-grade layers available for sale. They are about a year-and-a-half old, so they’ve got plenty of laying time left. They typically lay light brown eggs.

$10/hen

Rabbits

Dutch Doe

One Dutch doe about a year-and-a-half old. Two previous kits. Friendly. Able to breed.

$25 ($40 includes wood ‘hutch’, which holds two rabbits, and all feeding equipment).